Pete, sorry but it was only a thought.
Lap the valves in with lapping paste. I would have thought that .030 – .050 of contact would have been plenty plenty.. On a full sized racing engine we only used .075 and I’ll bet the compression ratio on that and BMEP was much higher than on yours. (Triple springs to cope with bounce and high flank accelerations on the cam!)
I wouldn’t worry about one plug being sooty (other than it will affect starting). You need to start on the rich side, and since inlet tract velocities will be low, you will not be getting good atomisation. If it persists at higher speeds, thats a different matter and you will need to look at jet size, jet position in the throat, and emulsion tube settings if you are using an emulsion tube. Nor at low speeds can you draw much of a conclusion as whether one cylinger is robbing the other. You could just be getting better sealing in one cylinder.
The other thing that might be worth checking is the valve spring seat. If that is not truly level and set at 90 deg to the valve guide, it tends to cock the sping over, which pulls the valve out of true. (Or can do so)
Your head gasket is not leaking by, and the head is actually flat? Tat might be the source of the leak. I’d use soapy water to tell you exactly where the leaks are.