I didn't give 2 different dia for the 3.5 mm one, I made a comparison with an electrical screw which is smaller.
I basically measure the pitch by counting the threads (for the smallest I counted 37.5 over 20mm – giving a pich of 0.53 or 48 tpi – which would fit in very well with the 6BA
So Yes, and thank you all, they must be a collection of BA machine screws, they just looked very metric, normally I can tell just looking if they are imperial. And the one measuring just a bit below 3.5 confused me even more.
Any suppliers of BA nuts – not quite sure if it is worth bothering? just seems a shame not to use them