Reading through the thread again I notice you do have a contactor so here is a suggestion that would ensure the contactor dropped out when the switch passed through the middle off position.
Connect L1 directly to A on the motor.
Connect L2 to 6 and link 6 to 8.
Connect B on the motor to 5 and link 5 to 11
Connect L3 to 10 and link 10 to 12
connect C on the motor to 7 and link 7 to 9
Link 1 to 3 We will call this point X
Link 2 to 4 We will call this point Y
Break the feed to the contactor coil and connect the two ends of the break one to X and one to Y
This will cause the contactor to drop out when the switch passes through the middle off position.
You will then have to press the start button again after the switch has been set to either the forward or reverse positions.
As you have a contactor all three phases will be disconnected from the motor when the switch is in the off position.
Even if the switch is set to forward or reverse if the motor has been stopped with the stop button none of the phases will be connected to the motor. If you post the exiting wiring diagram and information on the contactor one of us will be able to tell you a suitable place to break the feed to the contactor coil.
Les.
Edited By Les Jones 1 on 24/01/2021 14:56:22