I can recommend the guys at York Club. Yes there’s a lot of train talk but , if you ask, they really try and help! And there’s a real fountain of knowledge to drink from.
It’s definately true though that if you ask 4 engineers for an opinion on something you’ll get 6 answers ( at least) , most of which will contradict each other on fundamental point!
In any organisation not just me clubs there are those that do a job and those that criticise it, that’s life. Illigitimi non carborundum ( apologies to anyone who can do latin! )