I think that most model engineering societies would want a solid bar type coupling between locomotive and the passenger car, with a chain as an additional safety feature.
If the loco is battery electric, the cable from the controller to the loco should have the socket on the loco facing fore and aft, so that in the event of a breakaway, the controller will be disconnected and the loco come to a halt.
Those are the functions for the locos that we run on our club portable track.
Howard