Hi Howard.
Your problem is being over egged!
Your tender is not going to be subject to any temperature. There is no need for a silver solder. No matter what material you decide upon the joints can be made with a soft solder. Just use the appropriate flux.
If you use stainless steel, then use a flux suitable for it. You can still use tin/lead or tin/copper. Your choice but they will leave a black or grey joint line. Does that matter if you are going to paint it?
If it does matter then use a silver/tin alloy. You won't see the joint.The spouts on stainless steel kettles were soldered with such an alloy. Corrosion ? What corrosion? Beer engines and shop signs are still assembled using it.
It really is a simple situation. Use your common sense and just do it!
If you want any more information then consult BS EN 14324 or my book which is written around it! A point to bear in mind….. you can buy 10 books for the price of one copy of the BS!
Keith