I've managed to do it but it's a long winded way and my method above will be a lot quicker. If you want to let the assembly tools do it for you then this is how I did it:
1. Add a small chamfer to the edge of the hole 0.1mm will do
2. In assembly align the axis through the middle of the hole with the axis through the ball
3. Using standard Constraint tool select the face of the chamfer and the face of the ball and then the dot "tangent inside"
When you click apply it looks like it has done the job but if you section the parts and zoom in you can see there is a gap
If you zoom in further you can see the ball is actually sitting where lines projected from the side of the hole and face of the plate would meet and that is where you say you want the ball.
4. Anchor the two parts, save and close the assembly as it stands
5. Open up the plate part and delete the chamfer, save and close
6. Open up the assembly again and now things are where you wanted them.