Bill, having nursed my late wife through her final years of young-onset Alzheimer's (dementia) at home, including a number of falls — but not the frequency you are talking about — I can relate. And I just can't imagine how you are coping virtually on your own with this situation of two dementia patients falling regularly.
Here in Australia we have government programs designed to keep people living at home rather than moving into a nursing home, so they pay for the kind of assistance you need. Is there no equivalent in the UK? Have you spoken to any kind of dementia support group or social worker to find out what kind of support might be available? There must be some kind of national Alzheimer's support association that can steer you toward such help.
Two dementia patients living on their own and falling over regularly relying on the help of a relative residing outside their home is not a sustainable situation. It is a degenerative disease so things get progressively worse, usually more quickly than you anticipate. The time to seek help is before you need it, not after. Things can get overwhelming fast.
Your biggest problem is not getting Mum and Dad back up off the ground, but what is inevitably going to happen to them on the way down. Broken hips, particularly among older women who have brittle bones due to hormonal issues, are almost guaranteed to happen. At that age, they usually never recover from the injury. And one head blow on a sink or corner of a table, or the floor could be even more catastrophic.
I don't mean to be alarmist, but really you need help and need it fast. (Been there, done that.)
Hopefully others on here with experience of such things in the UK will be able to offer suggestions on whom to contact for support in your time of need.
And it may well be that they have reached the stage where living at home alone is no longer sustainable for Mum and Dad. A tough call to make, and one you should be able to get some kind of professional help to make, usually in the form of an occupational therapist or similar's assessment of their capabilities and circumstances.
Reaching out for practical help with the lifting issues on this forum was a good start, but please look at reaching out through the medical and social support services for a much broader range of help that you are rapidly heading towards needing.
From the net, this might be a place to start (if you haven't already of course)
Alzheimer's Society – the Dementia Connect Service for England, Wales and Northern Ireland can be contacted on 0333 150 3456 or email connect@alzheimers.org.uk. The helpline offers information, support, guidance and signposting to other appropriate organisations.
They also have a list of available support on their website here Alzheimers.org.uk click on "Get Support" at the top of the page for more information.
Forgive me if you have already been through all this stuff to no avail, but your situation sounds just awful to me and I am just hoping you might be able to get the help you so desperately need.
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